I just realized the true reason behind not going after a dream for 20 years.
Read on and it might change your future or the future of your kids…
So, back in the middle of the 90’s one of my friends got into DJing.
He started with the cassette decks from his father’s hi-fi which he pimped a bit, e.g. he added a big knob for pitch control to be able to beatmatch the tracks. (He studied electronics so he had the skills.)
His parents were locally successful entrepreneurs they were considered wealthy among us other kids, so his parents could support him with his hobby and got him proper DJ gear. He got really good at it, even got a regular gig as a resident in a local club at the age of like 17.
He introduced me to the art of DJing, taught me the basics, and let me behind the scenes on his gigs. I was fascinated, fell in love with DJing and wanted to do it myself too,
but without having the resources to buy myself gear I was pretty much stuck.
Occasionally I rented decks and mixer from a local DJ store for a weekend to practice, or to play at a school party, but had to save up weeks for the rental fees too so this was really very occasional.
I continuously whispered my parents about DJing and the different cd players and mixers and other gear hoping that one day somehow we could afford to buy me some used, basic gear…
But we couldn’t.
I slowly let the dream of becoming a DJ go, as I accepted the story that DJing is not for me as I can’t afford, I don’t have the resources to get started. DJing was the privilege of the rich kids…
Over the years my connection to DJing got pretty distant. I still enjoyed listening to music, dj mixes, and sometimes jumped behind the decks for a few minutes just for fun on a friend’s wedding or similar event, but that was it. I didn’t really think about DJing in a way that I could or should do it myself,this story was packed away in a box somewhere inside myself.
Fast forward almost 20 years.
On a nice summer evening we were sitting on our terrace with my wife, having a glass of wine listening to some music on my iPad.
A track just caught my attention:
“…this would go really good with that other track..” I thought.
“Isn’t there a simple DJ app for the iPad that lets me mix and play a bit?”
It turned out there was…5 minutes on Google > download > go.
In a few minutes I was playing around and having big fun with a simple iPad app and I never stopped since that.
This evening kicked me back on track, It clicked and I didn’t let it go this time.
Since that I went from the simple app to a pretty professional home DJ studio in several steps.
First I thought it was just some fun on the side, i got me some basic gear just for fun, but the love of music and the art of DJing soon got me and I was in a 100% again.
First I tried to resist, told myself “now I’m grown up, now I am a husband and a dad, I have responsibilities let’s just keep this low profile as hobby on the side “
But then one day I realized that this is more, I (still) am in love and NOW I can afford it..
So I am fulfilling and living my teenage dream now and I have the time of my life when playing.
Do I want to make DJing a career?
See this post (art vs. work) to see why.
Could I have it made a career had I gotten into it seriously 20 years ago?
Sure, because I not only love DJing but I am also good at it, especially considering how little practice I get.
Would I have gone full in in my teens, I sure would be a seasoned pro by now.
So what is the lesson here?
Do you already know?
Let me help:
The thing that separated me from pursuing my dream of DJing 20 years ago was NOT my financial background as I thought as I was told, but the fixed mindset and the belief that I inherited from my parents, that this is just not our privilege as we are not wealthy, so I have to let it go…
What could have they taught me instead?
For example that If this is what I really want I must not let it go – but put in everything I got to get closer to my dream.
Go hang hang out in record stores, and check the latest music.
Go and hang around with DJ-s, party organizers, try to get closer to the industry to learn and get a glimpse behind the scenes whenever possible.
If I have little money – use that little money: buy one record a week, or a month. If I do it regularly it would add up and over time I would have a nice collection.
Get a summer job and use the money I earn to buy gear or records.*
Try to organize my own little gigs, for friends and schoolmates.
Do not spend time on anything that does not serve me getting closer to DJing.
*Note: I got summer jobs, but spent the money I earned on other things – trying to save up for DJ gear was not even an option as “I learned” that I just can’t have it anyway.
You know what?
This is how actually sooo many superstar DJs started out. With no money in their pocket, just the love for music & DJing, determination and the right mindset.
But how could my parents growing up in a fixed mindset themselves support and mentor me that way?They just wanted to keep me safe with their best knowledge.
Do I regret not having gone that different path?
No I don’t. If I wanted, I could still go after it now. Now with the right mindset and a way more resourcefulness. (resourcefulness not meaning having tons of money to spend, rather having ideas how to get what I want.)
I am just rather upset with the concept itself, that it “could have been different” – and all that separated me from it were literally just thoughts and stories.
I wonder where I would be now, how my life would be, who I would be now if my parents imprint me with a growth from early on mindset, instead of the limiting story I was provided with.
But you see, the universe is getting into balance again, music is like water, it finds its way, and in the end I ended up behind record decks anyway.
It is not a question IF you can get what you want, or what you are meant to have, who you are meant to be.
It is just a question of HOW and WHEN.
Do you have a similar story?
What was your dream?
What happened to it?