There you have a cool hack about how to find joy even in the shittiest activity. This is a life changer. It was for me!
Let’s be honest, in the daily routine of most of us the activities that we are excited about and that we really enjoy are…well…most probably in minority right?
Our days are packed with lots of activities ranging from “boring but necessary” to “irritating, disturbing but unavoidable” or maybe even things that we explicitly hate.
This includes stuff from doing the dishes, to having an unpleasant phone conversation, or in many cases the one thing we spend most of our time with: our work, our job.
Yes I feel that nowadays it is somehow fancy to hate your job. Or to go further it got fancy to hate having a job in general as only being an entrepreneur is rated as cool – at least this is what many self development theories, gurus, systems will try to sell you.
I’m sorry I’am not in that camp.
I do have a regular day job – maybe some day this will change, but for now I have one, a good one, I am totally happy with it.
Happy with both: being an employee and the job itself.
Maybe thanks to applying the ideas I am going to share with you just now.
Sure they will have the greatest impact if you apply them to your work (if this is necessary at all) but don’t limit yourself, use them as often ad you can.
(All are super effective but If you can’t wait and want to know the best idea of all go straight to the +1 at the end, this is the real game changer!)
There we go:
1.Choose the company not the activity:
This is an insanely important advice, a rule I follow myself and frequently recommend to my friends & family (especially when a new job offer is on the table and we discuss the options).
I am still at my current job because I want to do it with my colleagues, my team.
If my boss, the owner of the company would come to me tomorrow and announce that from tomorrow we are a gardening company or whatever (instead of being a commercial real estate asset management company as we are now) I would be in 100%, and he also knows this.
As long as you surround yourself with the right people, the activity won’t matter anymore, the focus will be on doing it together, be together, get inspired my each other, learn from each other.
Actually I have learned the most from the most shittt situations we have handled as a team.
OK, but what about activities where there is no company to choose, because for example you do your cleaning alone, late at night when the kids are sleeping or simply your job is a one man/lonely activity by nature?
You van still apply the following 2.
2.Make it a game, make it a challenge.
Can I do it with my left hand?Can I do it standing on one leg? Can I do 2 at once? How far can I het in 5 minutes?
You get it…find the game in it, challenge yourself, challenge others, set your records make it a thing.
Now that we have two newborns in the house, I almost always have a baby in one of my hands, so I have to solve everything with one hand. Instead of being pissed off by the difficulties I made a game out of it, and invited my wife to play too. Now I can’t wait for the new challenges and I am curious how I will solve it. (Think of everyday stuff that you would normally do using two hands e.g. slicing some bread or opening a botle of juice.)
Play music (of you can): sing and/or dance while you do what you do and it is a game instantly.
3.Give meaning to it.
Everything just has the meaning you give it.
If you can’t avoid being stuck in some “meaningless” activity for a while give meaning to it!
See it as a blessing as doing this and getting paid for it will make it possible to buy the stuff you wanted for so long.
As soon as you are finished you can go and join your friends for a game/dinner etc. so this activity is your gateway to meeting them.
Find a good reason behind the activity that will make it shine in a positive light, and you will love it!
The bonus idea which is the best of all:
You don’t have love the activity – love yourself doing it and being kick ass at it!
This is an extremely powerful idea the mightiest of them all.
Actually I’ve been applying this approach for a long time, but wasn’t really conscious about it until I recently saw an interview with John Travolta who expressed this approach beautifully, and it instantly clicked for me.
This was the first interview with Travolta I have ever seen, I didn’t really “know him”.
To my big surprise he is not that cool, bold character he often plays,at least not in the way you would think. He is super humble, compassionate, 100% dedicated to his art of acting and his audience.
As he expressed it:
He does not have to have anything in common with the character he plays, he doesn’t even have to like the character at all. What he is excited about, what he loves is how well he can play this character, how well he can entertain playing that character.
This approach can change your world believe me!
The moment you detach yourself from the activity and you commit yourself to give your full focus, best, your everything to what you do no matter what it is the (shitty) activity itself doesn’t matter anymore, only you being your best whatever you do.
The double benefit of this is that it not only immediately changes your state, your reality but believe me it will open some doors for you too…
What do you think?
Could you benefit from these ideas?
Let me know!